Households are the centre of our lives. It’s the place where our family gathers, the place where we can kick up our feet without feeling the need to impress anyone at the same time, and it’s the place you can really snuggle down and relax properly. And yet, sometimes we have to go through some changes to our household, completely throwing the dynamic off balance, and the time it takes to adjust is absolutely exhausting!
All that means we need some tried and tested methods to make sure we can make it out the other side of a change with a smile on everyone’s faces! And changes take all sorts of forms! So whether you’re just looking to save money a lot more often, or there’s some structural changes both in the building and in the family to cope with, here’s a couple of tips on dealing with them.
Know You’re in Control
This is your house, and you’re at the head of it! Any change that happens can be controlled by you, even if only to a point, and that means there’s always going to be minimal damage when you’ve got your game head on. So if you know you’re going to have make some changes in how you operate, now’s the time to roll your sleeves up and get on with what you have to do.
Cutting a new budget? When you’ve got all the finance records out in front of you, you know when you’re going to be able to treat yourself and the kids, and that’s something to hold onto. There’s subsidence in the walls?
There’s going to be someone nearby who can put you up, and there’s plenty of businesses both on and off the council payroll who can help you out. Get their numbers and demand a response, and don’t give up until you know you’re going to be able to sleep that night.
Losing a Member
And no, this doesn’t have to mean the worst! More along the lines of someone moving out, whether out of necessity or because they want, and all the adjustments we have to make when dealing with one less member of the family. Maybe someone is finally deciding to move out and stand on their own two feet, namely fast growing kids; do everything you can to support them to make sure you still feel like a part of their life!
If you’re beginning to realise you can’t look after someone who is totally dependent on you for care, and will be for the rest of their life, you can look into finding a skilled nursing home from the comfort of your own sofa. Don’t let yourself feel bad about this; it’s going to be a lot healthier for everyone involved, and means there’s going to be much more freedom for you and your household.
Dealing with household changes is never going to be easy, but it’s something you’re perfectly capable of! Don’t doubt yourself right now!